Food and drink
- Tacos or burgers?
- Sweet breakfast or savory breakfast?
- Coffee or tea?
- Spicy or mild?
- Cooking at home or ordering in?
- Fries or onion rings?
- Ice cream in a cone or a cup?
- Brunch or late-night diner?
- Pineapple on pizza: yes or absolutely not?
How you live
- Early bird or night owl?
- Text or call?
- Messy desk or clean desk?
- Plans made weeks ahead or decided an hour before?
- Big party or small dinner?
- Shower in the morning or at night?
- Window seat or aisle?
- Gym or long walk?
- Podcasts or music?
Personality in two words
Quick picks, but worth a follow-up when the answer surprises you.
- Leader or right hand?
- Head or heart?
- Say it now or sleep on it?
- Give advice or listen?
- Spontaneous or prepared?
- Forgive easily or remember everything?
- Few close friends or a wide circle?
- Be right or be kind?
Travel and pop culture
- Beach or mountains?
- Road trip or flight?
- City break or remote cabin?
- Hotel or rental?
- Movie theater or couch?
- Book first or movie first?
- Reality TV or true crime?
- Concert in a stadium or a tiny venue?
- Summer or fall?
How to use them
Speed is the game. Fire them off quickly and do not let anyone overthink. The rapid rhythm makes people answer honestly before they have time to pick the answer that sounds better.
Pause on the surprises. If someone says aisle when they seemed like a window person, or remember everything when they seem easygoing, ask about it. Those are the answers with a story behind them.
Take turns being the one who answers. Going back and forth keeps it from feeling like a quiz, and comparing picks gives you instant inside jokes. It works just as well in a slow exchange of voice notes on Hush as it does around a table.
Questions people ask
They are low effort to answer, so they break the ice fast. Together the picks sketch out someone's habits and personality, and they give you natural follow-up topics without any awkward silence.
This or that is about preference between two normal things, answered in a second. Would you rather usually pits two hard or absurd scenarios against each other and is meant to be debated.
They are perfect for text. Send three at once, let the other person reply in a single message, then send three back for them to ask you. It keeps a chat moving with almost no effort.